tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2529969472454786525.post2693839921041694672..comments2023-09-28T04:31:56.852-06:00Comments on TravelinOma: Advice on In-Law KidsTravelin'Omahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18415472674768977723noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2529969472454786525.post-1737383553389945582009-06-03T10:00:25.977-06:002009-06-03T10:00:25.977-06:00Totally understand this - I am the oldest too. I ...Totally understand this - I am the oldest too. I pray that I am accepting. I know that you are a wonderful MIL. On Sunday, Christie was SO sad that you had to leave. She always talks about how much she loves you and Opa. I have never heard her say anything negative about you... and THAT is the sign of good in laws.Stuart♥Marenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09131967723004156233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2529969472454786525.post-63267131930520323672008-04-01T00:39:00.000-06:002008-04-01T00:39:00.000-06:00This is Sco, just posting under Nim's account. I'...This is Sco, just posting under Nim's account. I've had siblings make spouse choices and moral choices that were totally different than their previous moral choices and beliefs. They'd lived and believed in certain values and morals as adults. They'd even spent 1-2 years of their own lives (as adults) teaching others about these values and morals. They lived one way, and then became a completely different person upon meeting, courting and marrying their spouses. Do I love them and their spouse? Of course! Did my parents express any concerns to them? I wasn't around for any of those conversations, but I'd be shocked if they didn't express any concerns. Do my parents love my siblings and their spouses? Yes!<BR/><BR/>I'm not trying to belittle the way you've done things - as your son-in-law, I felt accepted and loved right away! <BR/><BR/>I'm just saying that I've personally seen situations where I can understand parents expressing concerns regarding potential spouses. If my children made choices, including potential spouse choices, that were totally different than what you'd seen them choose before, don't you think you'd express some concerns? Now, if your children decided to not listen to you, of course you need to love and accept that spouse.<BR/><BR/>And I don't pretend to understand your whole experience - my inlaws completely accepted me! <BR/><BR/>I just hope that my children are wise when choosing a spouse. And if I think they're getting serious with someone who's dishonest, or who appears to lack their same level of morals, or who lacks incentive to provide for a family, or who exhibits only selfishness toward my child, or who doesn't exhibit the right signs of love toward my child, or who I believe will hurt my child, you better believe that I'll be expressing my concerns to my child. And I'll do my best to do so with the utmost tact and love.<BR/><BR/>Can you tell I need to lighten up? If my children choose someone that's honest and a good person, has the same morals, that loves my child, that wants to provide for a family and seems like they'll work hard to make that happen, and wants to make my child (and my grandchildren) happy, then what more could I ask for?Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17330381126499289136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2529969472454786525.post-822950814086641652008-03-04T23:05:00.000-07:002008-03-04T23:05:00.000-07:00As I go next week to meet my potential son-in-law ...As I go next week to meet my potential son-in-law who is courting my 19 1/2 year old daughter....you were inspired to repost this. <BR/>Thanks, I'll think this one was for me.<BR/><BR/>I have to say, no one ever questioned me...they asked him...why HER? Seriously.Jenibellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09627472635327336463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2529969472454786525.post-59036077641814800932008-03-03T13:20:00.000-07:002008-03-03T13:20:00.000-07:00My mother used to say that before she had children...My mother used to say that before she had children she had four distinct principles of child-rearing. After having her kids, she said, "Now I have four distinct children and no princples."Sherihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13734510616930967774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2529969472454786525.post-79073645505966900692008-03-03T08:10:00.000-07:002008-03-03T08:10:00.000-07:00Awesome advice. I hope I remember it twenty years...Awesome advice. I hope I remember it twenty years down the road when my daughter gets married. :0)Ashleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13088158906170080007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2529969472454786525.post-41923648299012809102007-03-15T07:48:00.000-06:002007-03-15T07:48:00.000-06:00It's kind of like the relationship Dear Hubby and ...It's kind of like the relationship Dear Hubby and I have where we say we're "independently dependent" upon each other. That's the way we've been with our kids, too, thru the years. A solid foundation, a sanctuary at home, an easy place to fall and bounce back when life gets overwhelming. And yet the freedom to spread their wings and form their own flight plans along the way. At ages 28 and 30, they're two of our best friends.MissKrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12726021829363492972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2529969472454786525.post-40090292032824184002007-03-14T17:49:00.000-06:002007-03-14T17:49:00.000-06:00Do you mind if I steal your mission statement for ...Do you mind if I steal your mission statement for the next generation? You have had great success and I'd love to do the same.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17330381126499289136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2529969472454786525.post-3361126734521295762007-03-14T15:43:00.000-06:002007-03-14T15:43:00.000-06:00amen, sistah friend!amen, sistah friend!anna johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11664659764653883122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2529969472454786525.post-20909237001039727652007-03-14T12:22:00.000-06:002007-03-14T12:22:00.000-06:00You were really good at letting us be ourselves! ...You were really good at letting us be ourselves! I am always amazed that you thought I was so great...I guess I wanted to live up to it!Jakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01290994546386816813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2529969472454786525.post-49682702324528601782007-03-14T11:32:00.000-06:002007-03-14T11:32:00.000-06:00Yes! I love this! It's a good reminder for me on...Yes! I love this! It's a good reminder for me on days like today (this is a petty little for instance) when my 13-y-o daughter tweezed her eyebrows to nothingness. I had to remind myself that they are *her* eyebrows and I have to let her make her own decisions (and mistakes) just like I did! Plus offer to help if she needs it next time :)Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08941198405523733540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2529969472454786525.post-90160168364767007932007-03-14T07:50:00.000-06:002007-03-14T07:50:00.000-06:00I am so grateful you paved the way. I think I had ...I am so grateful you paved the way. I think I had it just maybe a tiny bit better than you..not much, but I remember telling mom and dad that they didn't have much faith in the way they raised me if they didn't think I could make this disicion. (Borrowed from something Jessie Benton Fremont said to her dad) I was reading the book at the time. It helped. Also makes me feel like I'm not a crazy person when I worry about my kids.Pollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15060124092060842584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2529969472454786525.post-27337189268868330472007-03-14T07:47:00.000-06:002007-03-14T07:47:00.000-06:00Oh wow...this is incredible. Love this post...lov...Oh wow...this is incredible. Love this post...love this blog!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2529969472454786525.post-90248842312625770292007-03-13T20:41:00.000-06:002007-03-13T20:41:00.000-06:00That is so you...I love it. You had such clarity ...That is so you...I love it. You had such clarity as a young mother. You guys are the best.Christiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05769700320834756050noreply@blogger.com